Discipline Weighs Ounces While Regret Weighs Tons

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.

We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.

The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.

All disciplines affect each other. Mistakenly the man says, "This is the only area where I let down." Not true. Every let down affects the rest. Not to think so is naive.

Discipline is the foundation upon which all success is built.

Lack of discipline inevitably leads to failure.

Discipline has within it the potential for creating future miracles.

The best time to set up a new discipline is when the idea is strong.

One discipline always leads to another discipline.

Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion.

You don't have to change that much for it to make a great deal of difference. A few simple disciplines can have a major impact on how your life works out in the next 90 days, let alone in the next 12 months or the next 3 years.

The least lack of discipline starts to erode our self-esteem.

by Jim Rohn

Seeds of Greatness

This I Believe

I believe in myself.

I believe that all people have the equal right to become all they are willing and able to become.

I believe that I am a good as anyone in the world. Although I may never be on the cover of Time or People magazine – I still have time to be one of the people who makes a really positive difference in the world.

I believe that although I may not be the best looking in the group, I'll always be looking my best in every group!

I believe in this and the next generation, and believe we'll build a better nation.

I believe that good health means more than wealth.

I believe in caring and sharing, rather than comparing.

I believe of all the people I see, still I'd rather be me!

I believe in caring and sharing, rather than comparing.

I believe of all the people I see, still I'd rather be me!

by Denis Waitley

(This excerpt was taken from Denis Waitley's The Seeds of Greatness Treasury)

Do it Anyway...

I came a cross this when my wife, KC came gave me this book. I think it was really because of the nickname they (KC and her girlfriends) used to give me before. You see, I used to keep saying "Anyway"... So when I saw the book and then read the contents, I discovered that it may not have been a coincidence, but rather something that just lined up, the stars, moon and planets...

The poem below, may sound a bit far fetched and to most it may be ridiculous, but when you really think about it, it makes so much sense. Especially in a crazy world we live in. Be it any religion, faith or any belief, I think that the words and sentences in this poem ultimately means to trust your heart and never give up. I hope that it gives you the motivation to follow your heart and to be a force for good in this beautiful world.

Wiling

October 2nd 2006, Penang

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ANYWAY

The Paradoxical Commandments

by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

Give the world the best you have anyway.

http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com/

How long will a flea keep jumping?

How long do you think a flea will keep jumping?

Anyway, this is a pretty interesting story that we can reflect upon... Long ago, scientists put a flea in a jar and closed the lid, they saw the flea jump and hit the cover and made a 'Deng' sound. Now the flea with all it's energy kept jumping up, but everytime it would hit the cover. The flea never gave up, it kep doing it all day long, it was determined, it had energy and he was young, 'Deng, Deng, Deng ...'

Six months later, the scientists realised that there was no sound from the jar anymore. They realised that the flea had stopped hitting the cover, it was jumping lower and lower, until finally it came to a crawl on the bottom of the jar. Now the flea, disillusioned by the fact that no matter how hard it tried, it was no use, the cover was in the way. The cover prevented it from reaching its full potential.


Later, the scientists removed the cover to open the jar. The flea suddenly got to smell fresh air. To the flea it was so refreshing, it was the smell of freedom. So it did what it did best, it jumped. But amazingly, the scientist discovered that the flea was only able to jump to the rim of the jar opening and not high enough to get out. The flea had been conditioned to only jump as high as the cover, as if the cover of the jar was still there!

How does this relate to me?

Well, we too have been conditioned by different 'jars' in our life; Jar's like society, community, family, friends and work. And each jar has a different height, diameter or size. Also, each jar has different colors and shapes; which paints a different view or perception of the world for us. So, if we are in a red jar, the world may see red and if the jar is curvey, then the world may look distorted and irregular. Sometimes, it may cause us to look at the world in a narrow aspect or allows us to see things in a broader scale.



Why are some jars, colored and some curvey and some straight and clear?

Well, it may be caused by culture, belief, different values and different ways of thinking; which have been shaped by different experiences throughout our lives. Nothing wrong or right about the color or shape, just that its funny how metaphorically is makes sense.

In the beginning, we are energetic, full of life and determination to succeed and reach out goals, but when we start jumping and taking action, we found ourselves limited by the 'cover'. The cover can be anything from, a companies policy of promotion, expectations of society and family or may be worse, the limitation of our mind.

"If you think you can't, you can't..."

This is a serious cancer of the mind. When one is limited by their own mind, even when there is no more 'cover' the mind will never break free or escape.

When the cover is removed, when we see that there is something new, something refreshing, something that can help us escape out, escape the rat race or break through, we discover that we can't jump out of the jar. We discover that the conditioning of the jar and perception has prevented us from achieving our true potential. Just like the flea.

What can we do?

We need to understand that it is terribly difficult for someone who has been so long in this jar to jump out, so we need to relearn, re-educate, remind ourselves we can do more, we have no limitations and we can decide to be free. We have to start thinking we can.

"If we think you can, you can!"

It is hard work, but trust me that it is possible. And if it is possible, that simply means, YOU CAN DO IT.

You may look around and you may see people you respect, people you know who are in their personal jars for a long time. And as time goes by, the strange thing is, the jar get taller and taller, and if we do not realise this fact, we will be trapped forever in this jar. And when we finally realise that we are in a 'jar' with a 'cover' we then decide to give up, and forget about jumping and crawl instead. So, we never really achieve our dreams or even do the things that are important to us. Because what is important, may not be in the jar, it is outside the jar.

Today, look around you. Is your perception tainted a certain color? Are you looking at the world in a narrow view point or broad perspective? Is it distorted? Are you still jumping, hoping to get out of the jar? Or have you stopped jumping, stopped learning, stopped reminding yourself, YOU CAN? Think about it.

So, how long will a flea keep jumping?

For a flea, not for long. But for you, now that you know, I think you will want to keep jumping. Keep jumping, as they say:

"If you are not climbing, you are sliding." - Anthony Robbins

"Life is like running up an escalator going down, if you stop running, you will go down." - Unknown

"Life is like riding a bicycle, you fall when you stop paddling." - Lance Armstrong

To your success!

Wiling

14th September 2006, Penang

* This story is adapted from Charissa Kwan, Team Elite & 5 Million Circle Member, who shared the story of the flea in the jar during our recent intensive training. Thank you Charissa!

If Doubt Kills Us, Numbers Saves Us.

When we start to loose faith in what we believe in, we start to doubt ourselves. Doubt our abilities, belief and confidence. We justify this doubt with our actions. That's why I say, doubt kills us.

It really does. When you are going to jump a distance, and you know you can do it. You hear someone say "Can or not? Are you sure?" Guess what? Do you jump? You hesitate and you stop, you start to doubt yourself.

But if you have practiced the jump so many times, you wouldn't even hesistate and jump. Practice is not a 'one time thing'. It is by the numbers. That means, you do it over and over again until you succeed and have the confidence to do it. Only through doing it many many times, can you grow this confidence.

So, "If doubt kill us, numbers saves us."

This is universal, doubt can only be removed by persistence, effort and confidence of doing it over and over again. And when we don't have the luxury of time to repeat it. Then do what I do. Find more people who have done it and leverage their belief, their commitment and their confidence as your own. They make up YOUR numbers!

"What you lack in skill, you make up in numbers." - Jim Rohn

Leaders leave no room for doubt, they are certain 100% of the time.

To your success!
Wiling

Life is Exciting!

There is a link below where you will find 30 over famous quotes on fear. Fear really paralyses people and prevents people from taking the very step that will change their lives and future.

We fear because we are uncertain of the outcome. And fear of failure, fear of rejection and fear of being looked down and laughed has really stopped 95% of the population from achieving their dreams. Then, who are the other 5%? Well, they are the ones who succeed in life, those that we read about, admire, idolize and respect. Why aren't they afraid? What makes them different than the rest?

I guess, they realized that even if they were to fail, be rejected and be looked down and laughed at, that they would still see another sun rise the next day. What was the worse that could happen?

Really, what would be the worse that could happen? And could you live with it?

How about, not only living with it, but know that what you believe in and what you are doing is getting you what you truly want in life?

"At the point when you decide, fear becomes excitement. You start to build a life instead of destructing your own."

Deciding you will be successful, leaves no doubt that you won't.
Deciding is the beginning of better things to come.

And what is the decision is wrong? What then?

Well, the decision was not wrong. It was only a detour, a new chance to start in a new direction.

There are no wrong decisions, only the lack of making one.

So decide now, that life is exciting and fear is no longer an obstacle, it's has become a motivation.

To your success!
Wiling

Quotes on Fear

Where can we go with what we already know now?

Got a minute? Let me ask you...

Where can we go with what we already know now?

The answer to that, is simply...

"No where that you haven't been."

I realized the importance of this from a close friend, Felix. He said that we can only produce the same results given the knowledge that we currently have. And to excel to a higher level, we need to grow beyond what we know to achieve a different, a better and a higher level of performance that exceeds our current limits and expectations.

This, although is trivial, but we often take this for granted, we know we need to read, learn and improve. We understand the necessity to do so, as they say: Learn to Earn.

The power of this statement, comes not from knowing we need to. But fearing what will happen if we don't. I couldn't imagine a day not learning something new, not improving a certain aspect of my life, not understand humanity and not progressing. I know, that there are a lot of things to learn, but if we just took a minute to learn just one thing, then it would be all worthwhile... at least for that day...

At least for that moment.

To your success!
Wiling

My Family, My Life, Enjoy!

New Vantage Point

Something to share...

This is a nice quote... Sometimes we think that as we progress forward in our lives achieving the results we want, our focus is on the end goal. For some of us, the goal is clear and for some there is some more definition to do. Often, after we arrive at the goal and review what we have achieved, we often measure ourselves based on that result alone.

But I feel that it is equally, if not more important to realise that, as we strive for excellence and continue along the path of perfection, we can be pleasantly surprised by the wonderful things we have learned, the amazing people we have met, the moments of inspiration that flash by and the people you have made a difference to, all of these things add spice to what we call life.

So, in other words, lets not loose sight of our goals, keep them in clear view and recognise that at each step of the way, there is a new 'view' to reflect and new moment to make a difference.

I hope this quote gives you energy and the inspiration to stretch yourself as you climb to the peak. It has for me, at this very moment, in my study room, 2 more days to Chinese New Year.

Best regards,
Wiling

Thu, 26 Jan 2006

"Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance toward the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vantage point."
Harold V Melchert

Simple Abundance

What I learnt yesterday still resonates in me today. Where was I?

I was among a group of outstanding people that had come together for a purpose. And I felt so encouraged, inspired and grateful, not by what they said, but by their actions and their spirit.

As I looked into their eyes, it was not what they had with them, it was far more valuable than that.

It was what they could become!

It was someting that, as you sit by the sea and look out into the vast ocean and listen to the waves break the shore and feel the cool wind blow against your face and body, you squint to see a beautiful sunrise, and suddenly the rays of the sun like arrows radiates towards you, as if someone placed a warm blanket over you.

It felt reassuring and it went straight to the heart and stayed there.

I think everyone went home yesterday, believing that a miracle came true for them. I was there and honestly, it did. And as we departed, we knew that something powerful had happened that day.

"You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are gratef! ul for, the more will be given you."
Sarah Ban Breathnach, Simple Abundance

Here's something to view as you begin this week. A very different week than any other in your life. Make it great!

http://thegoodnessoflife.com/

Become the bridge and you will directly and indirectly effect many people in this world and have them be successful in their life as they achieve their dreams and leave a legacy for future generations to come.

To your success,
Wiling & KC
MADE Penang
March 6th 2006

Would'nt It Be Wonderful

I'm a buddhist. But I don't think my parents decided which religion I should follow, but I have attended Sunday School, enjoyed singing Christmas carols and giving Christmas present.

So when I talk about subjects like the below quote, to me it is a higher power that humbles me, teaches me, so that I am forever grateful to know that I have so much more to learn each day.

I like this quote as I like all good quotes...

"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, I've used everything you gave me."

- Erma Bombeck, writer

Would'nt it be wonderful...

if each day you found that you had learnt something you didn't know?

if each day you discovered that you had more courage then you ever thought you had?

if each day you saw a brighter side of yourself you thought was in the shadows?

if each day you reached a little higher and touched a star?

if each day you raised up a heavy heart and made it shine brighter than it did before?

if each day you saw further in to the horizone and you saw your goal?

if each day you held on tighter to a dream you longed for?

if each day you embraced something new and applied it for good cause?

if each day you touched someones heart by sharing your own?

if each day you cried a happy tear of joy?

if each day you felt like you were on top of the world?

if each day you opened up your life to allow all the goodness to enter?

if each day you created a new beginning and watched it grow into greatness?

if each day you lived like you never lived before?

if each day you only looked at the good things in life and celebrated it?

if each day you gave everything you had and know that you would do it again tomorrow?

if each day you made a difference?

It would be a wonderful day!

"Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good n! ews is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!"
- Anne Frank
1929-1945, Jewish Refugee and Diarist

Happy Monday!

To your success!
Wiling Tan

March 20th, 2006

How do you find gold?

I came home tonight after a BOM session. It was a good session. When I came in the door, I asked my mother who was sitting on the sofa with father this question.

Wiling: "How do you find gold?"
Mother: "By sifting through tons of earth and using water to wash it out."
Wiling: "That's how we find Executives."

We laughed.

Then my father told me this story that he heard way back in his universitiy days in NanYang University (1960's)

Father:
"There was this lecturer that decided to give a special talk on how to always remember what you studied. So everyone in the university came to listen, there were so many people at the talk that it was packed. Everyone wanted to know how to remember what they had studied. This was also because there was an exam coming up soon. So the lecturer gave his talk and it was 2 hours long. The subject was about how the brain worked as he was a biologist.

At the end of the talk, all the students were wondering why he hadn't mentioned the main topic "How to remember what you studied." As the lecturer walked down the podium and was about to leave, the now anxious students shouted for him to tell them how to remember what they had studied.

The lecturer turned around and asked the student: How many words do you want to remember? The student replied: 100 words. The lecture explained that a typical person can remember 10% of what they studied. So he said: 'Study 1000 words!'. Then another student angrily shouted: 'I need to remember 1000 words for my exam!' The lecturer calmly said: 'then study 10,000 words.' "

As you can see, this applies perfectly to our business of sifting through the earth to find gold. If we want 12 Execs, we sift 12 tons of earth, that is on average 1 ton yields 1 exec.

So if you find yourself in a situation where you want to enrol 100 people, then talk and share with 1000 people. This is the nature of the business.

Some may say that this is just luck, but always remember that luck favours those who are prepared. To get more luck and to improve your efficiency/odds, come to training, read & listen, duplicate leaders to improve your skills.

As Jim Rohn once said:
Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better,
Don't wish for less problems, wish for more skills,
Don't wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.

The funny thing about this story from my father is, he has never told me about this story before and on hindsight it is so applicable to our business.

We need to continuosly remind ourselves to keep planting the FFG seeds, to keep talking and sharing until we achieve our goal.

"It's the constant and determined effort that breaks down all resistance, sweeps away all obstacles."

- Claude M. Bristol, 1891-1951, Author of "The Magic of Believing"

“The secret of success is constancy of purpose.”

- Benjamin Disraeli

"Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did."

- Newt Gingrich (Politician, Author, Academic)


To your success,
Wiling Tan

April 6th' 2006

A Little Nut

How will you hold your ground?

What roots will we need to grow, how deep. I'm sure you remember that even solid rock or concrete, cannot stop roots from cracking them open.

And after that, imagine how beautiful this tree will be in the sun, in the wind and in your mind.

Imagine your success, every detail of it, every feeling you get.... in your mind.

There is no better place to practice recieving your reward or desired result, than in you mind.

And what your mind believes, it will achieve.
And that's a fact!

By Wiling

Wed, 3 Aug 2005

"The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground. "

Author Unknown (Thank you)

A River

But, if the river did cut through rock with it's power,

the edges of the rock would be course and unrefined.

While with persistence, a river smooths over the edges and polishes the rock,

creating beauty and elegance.

Change does takes time, but the decision to change only takes a blink of an eye to make.

Decide.

To your success!
Wiling
Mon, 17 Oct 2005

"A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence. "
Jim Watkins

Think Big and your Mind will Catch Up!

Our mind is a very powerful thing.
It's goal is to preserve your safety, and therefore it's safety.

It will tell you shut up when you want to say something.
So it doesn't get embarrased!

It will tell you to slow down when you want to go fast.
So it doesn't fall down and get bruised!

It will tell you that you are tired when you want to take action.
So it doesn't have to anything!

It will convince you to remain at status quo, when you want to change.
So it doesn't have to change!

It will remind you that you have limitations when you want to break free.
So it doesn't have to take anymore risk!

It will tell you to close your eys and mind when you really want to see.
So it doesn't have to learn new things.. again!

So, how can we stop our mind from controlling us?

Our mind is a very powerful thing.
If however, you decide to go fast, do your task, change, break free and see...

Just Do It!

Because after you have DECIDED, your mind has no choice but to do it.

It too wants to feel good, accomplished and powerful.

It can only get it by achieving more than it has.

Your mind will then be your greatest coach!

In fact, your mind was never out of your control,
You gave it control...

It's time to take it back!

Think Big and your Mind will Catch Up!


To your success!
Wiling Tan

This quote (below) speaks towards this truth.

"Lack and limitation can only exist when we make room for them in our mind."
Bob Proctor

Be Grateful To Everyone

Be Thankful.

Sometimes we are all too familiar with the people around us that we are quick to discover weaknesses and short comings, this is not a healthy thing. It leads to comparison and degeneration of relationships and negativitism.

We must see strengths and appreciate them. And even if, what we see is negative, it is also a positive when you look at it in a different way.

Learning to look at things in a positive note, is really attaining a sense of enlightenment and happiness.

"Do not trivialise and take for granted being Positive.

Negativity, like a virus, is not selective, it kills all."

Here is a great learning from Buddhism, although some of you are of different religion, I think it touches all of us as humans and what we take for granted.

by Wiling Tan

11/11/2005

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BE GRATEFUL TO EVERYONE

Everybody is creating a space for you to be transformed -- even those who think they are obstructing you, even those whom you think are enemies. Your friends, your enemies, good people and bad people, favorable circumstances, unfavorable circumstances -- all together they are creating the context in which you can be transformed and become a buddha. Be grateful to all.

A man once came and spat on Buddha, on his face. Of course his disciples were enraged. His closest disciple, Ananda, said to him, "This is too much!" He was red-hot with anger. He said to Buddha, "Just give me permission so that I can show this man what he has done."

Buddha wiped his face and said to the man, "Thank you, sir. You created a context in which I could see whether I can still be angry or not. And I am not, and I am tremendously happy. And also you created a context for Ananda: now he can see that he can still be angry. Many thanks, we are so grateful! Once in a while, please, you are invited to come. Whenever you have the urge to spit on somebody, you can come to us."

It was such a shock to the man, he could not believe his ears, what was happening. He had come expecting that he would anger Buddha. He had failed. The whole night he could not sleep, he tossed and turned and could not sleep. Continuously the idea haunted him -- his spitting on the Buddha, one of the most insulting things, and Buddha remaining as calm and quiet as he had been before, as if nothing had happened, wiping his face and saying to him, "Thank you, sir. And whenever you have this desire to spit on somebody, please come to us."

He remembered it again and again. That face, that calm and quiet face, those compassionate eyes. And when he had said thank you, it had not been just a formality, he was really grateful. His whole being was saying that he was grateful, his whole atmosphere was grateful. Just as he could see that Ananda was red-hot with anger, Buddha was so cool, so loving, so compassionate. He could not forgive himself now, what had he done? Spitting on that man -- a man like Buddha!

Early the next morning he rushed back, fell down at the feet of Buddha, and said, "Forgive me, sir. I could not sleep the whole night."

Buddha said, "Forget all about it. There is no need to ask forgiveness for something which has already passed. So much water has gone down the Ganges." Buddha was sitting on the bank of the Ganges under a tree. He showed the man, "Look, each moment so much water is flowing down! Twenty-four hours have passed -- why are you carrying it, something which is no longer existential? Forget all about it." And I cannot forgive you, because in the first place I was not angry with you. If I had been angry, I could have forgiven you. If you really need forgiveness, ask Ananda. Fall at his feet -- he will enjoy it!"

Be grateful to everyone. To those who have helped, to those who have hindered, to those who have been indifferent. Be grateful to all, because all together they are creating the context in which buddhas are born, in which you can become a buddha, a Christ consciousness.

~Osho (Forwarded by a Friend, BS Ang)

The General

The general who is able to persuade his forces that there is victory, even where there seems to be defeat, is one who will inspire them to fight against apparently impossible odds. They will, indeed, never suffer defeat, but will fight on until annihilated by capture or death. The secret of success even in the more pacific engagements of life lies in this principle — to be undaunted in ardour, in spite of failure; to recognise in failure a step towards ultimate success. Let a man be possessed with these, and victory is within his grasp, whether he recognises it or not.

- H. E. E. Hayes, "“Mohammed, The Prophet of Islam”"

My best, andrew

Quotations by Sportsman

This weeks quotations:

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In the end, its extra effort that separates a winner from second place. But winning takes a lot more that that, too. It starts with complete command of the fundamentals. Then it takes desire, determination, discipline, and self-sacrifice. And finally, it takes a great deal of love, fairness and respect for your fellow man. Put all these together, and even if you don't win, how can you lose?

- Jesse Owens

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I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

- Michael Jordan